Social Media: a Gift and a Curse

For the past few years I’ve always talked about how much social media has affected young adults these days including myself. The affects are good and bad though.

When it comes to the good things, I’ve noticed that a lot of people have used legitimately used social media for networking and building their brands whether it is for hosting/promoting parties, selling clothes, hair extensions or whatever. People have even gotten job opportunities and met celebs because of social media which is dope….. Some people have used social media as a way to make friends, link up with associates and/or date, which can be tricky.

Now here goes the bad….. Inferiority and multiple complexes has been the result of social media from what I’ve noticed. There are people who constantly feel like they need to compete or feel like if they’re not doing what other people are doing they’re an underachiever. Also, flying each other has been a thing that pretty much goes wrong every time lol PSA: don’t fly across the country solo to link up with strangers. 

ALSO, it seems like we all have a hard time disconnecting. Sometimes I’ll find myself refreshing my TL just because and not because I have any interest in whatever everyone is tweeting or posting it’s just become a habit.

Social Media is really complex and taking over slowly but surely in both good and bad ways.

Adulting

Adulting has been on my mind a lot lately now that I’ve graduated from college. I have time to kinda think like “ok so now what?”


I think we all reach that point where (whether we went to college or not) we’re trying to figure out what’s the next move we need to make in order to prosper as an adult.

There’s so much to on the adulting to do list📝:

  • Finding a decent job with good benefits
  • finding somewhere to live
  • paying bills
  • budgeting
  • staying organized and on top of things
  • Building up your resume
  • putting your time management skills to use or if you don’t have any building them up

Here’s a 👉🏾 link to a guide that’ll help you with most of your adulting questions and issues

I think the most difficult part is making the transition from being guided through life by your parents to doing it all on your own, but it’s just a one day at a time type of things. I just wanted to make this post to ensure you that you’re not alone.

 

I’m Back!

Hey guys so I was on a bit of a blogging break, but now I’m back and ready to share my experiences, projects, and advice/tips with you all. Stay tuned!

Ballin’ On A Budget

Unidays!!!! If you’re a college student register for Unidays all you have to do is register with your college email and they’ll give you a special code to use so that when you shop at sites like Boohoo, Missguided and Asos you will get your student discount

—> Link to the Ballin’ On a Budget Video

 

Moonlight *Spoilers*

So I just recently watched the 8 Academy Award Nominated film, Moonlight. This coming of age film touches on the important issues that tend to be forgotten about or people turn a blind eye to. Drug addiction, adolescence, and sexual identity are all issues that the main character, Chiron faced. This film really tugged on my heart strings. There was a lot of heartache, but there were some triumphs.

 

The film is told in three parts which follow the key points in Chiron’s life.

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Little:

As a kid, Chiron also called Little is constantly bullied at school and his drug addicted mother, Paula doesn’t help much. Juan, a local drug dealer takes Chiron under his wing. Juan and his girlfriend, Teresa provide Chiron with a sort of safe haven. Chiron struggles to come to terms with his sexual identity all while dealing with his mother’s worsening drug habit as a child. Chiron endured during his childhood. His mother was not always around and whenever she was coming down from her high she would be aggressive towards him. He learns early on what the slur “faggot” meant and that Juan is a drug dealer who fed his mother’s crack addiction. However, Chiron still continued to hang out with Juan and Teresa as they sort of acted as his surrogate parents. Throughout his hardships, he managed to have one friend, Kevin. Kevin always seemed to randomly pop up whenever Chiron was down or going through it.

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Chiron:

Chiron is now a teenager still struggling with his identity.He’s still dealing with bullying only that is different is that now he’s in high school. In class, he deals with constant verbal and physical abuse from a bully, Terrell. After school, he would typically avoid Terrell and his crew and go to Juan and Teresa’s. In the film, it is clear that Juan died, but not much is said about what happened. One day after coming home and having his mother take all of the money Teresa gave him he sleeps at the train station, but unable to sleep comfortably he wanders to the beach. At the beach he bumps in Kevin, his childhood friend. They sit, talk and smoke some weed. At some point their conversation, the mood changes. Chiron and Kevin shared a deeply intimate moment that stuck with Chiron for the rest of his life. Despite their intimate moment, Kevin gave into peer pressure just a few days later at the hands of Chiron’s bully, Terrell. this time the bullying was apart of a hazing ritual. The hazing ritual resulted in Chiron being brutally beaten in front of his peers. Chiron felt there was no point in reporting to the authorities he broke down in his principal’s office and just kept saying you don’t even know. He felt and knew that pressing charges wouldn’t make a difference so the next day he took matters into his own hands. He returned to school the following day and beat Terrell over the back with a chair. Consequently, Chiron was arrested and sent to juvie in ATL.

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Black:

Years later, Chiron is now an adult. He became a drug dealer after someone from juvie put him on to it. Everything in his life was pretty slowed down and consistent. There were no traces of the insecure Chiron from Liberty City up until he gets a surprising phone call in the middle of the night. He picks up the phone thinking it is his mother calling him from rehab, but it is actually Kevin. The call has Chiron lost for words, but Kevin managed to keep the conversation going. The phone call ended with Kevin telling him that since he works at a restaurant whenever Chiron decides to visit Miami he’ll cook for him.  Shortly after that conversation Chiron visits his mother at the rehab facility she lives at. They have a heart wrenching conversation about her lack of love and care for him as a child and how regretful she is. The next day, Chiron drives from Atlanta to Miami to see Kevin. They sit and chat for awhile with mostly Kevin talking because Chiron seems apprehensive and unsure of Kevin. Kevin closes the restaurant and Chiron gives him a ride home. Back at Kevin’s place they seem to beat around the bush, but Chiron finally opens up. He says that Kevin is the only man he’s been intimate with and that he has never been with anyone else since. The film comes to a close with them embracing one another and talking.

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Review: there’s so much about this movie that I love. I love the all black cast. I loved how passionate the characters were. An LGBT movie was needed for the black community. I love and feel like there are so many parts of this movie that resonates with a lot of people. The young men who played Chiron as a child and teen did a great job. They had a big responsibility of understanding difficult issues and portraying them for the world to see and grasp. It was also interesting how Chiron never came out and explored after the moment he had with Kevin. In one of the last few scenes, he tells Kevin when he left Miami he built himself from the ground up and wanted to forget the things of his past. However, he never pretended to be straight or have any relationships with other men. It seemed as though that trip to Miami made him bring all of things he tried to put in the back of his mind back at the forefront for him to come to terms with. The writers and production team did a good job depicting a situation where there is beauty in the struggle.

Hiking to the Hollywood sign 101🌄

By S. Easley

So last week I took a trip to California for vacation. One thing that I wanted to accomplish was making it to the Hollywood sign.

Boy oh boy did I underestimate that hike. So from my own experience I decided to share some pointers and photos with you guys.

Here’s some major keys🔑 that’ll help you reach the top safely 

  • The key is go early to beat the heat and the sun otherwise it’ll be unbearable AND dangerous!🆘
  • Stay hydrated. Bring multiple bottles of water. Freeze them the night before. 💧
  • Stretch. Stretch. Stretch. 🏋🏽Especially if your body isn’t used to walking long distances
  • Pay attention to the signs because you’ll easily end up taking a wrong turn because there’s so many other trails↗️⬇️↙️↘️↖️
  • Take breaks. Stop at a rock or in some shade and stretch🌳
  • Always go with another person or in a group the more the better 👫👯👬👭

I also wanted to add that you can’t get as close to the sign as you think lol. Hope my tips help💕

Below are pics📸 taken during my hike 👇🏾

New Year, New Me.. Well Kinda

Happy New Year, guys! I hope you all brought in the new year with loved ones and enjoyed yourself.

So I’m writing to this post to share my thoughts on new year’s resolutions. So typically people have this notion that with the new year they can revamp themselves and become this new person while coming up with all of these unrealistic goals and etc. that they swear they’re gonna achieve and stick to. I’ve come to realize that associating the new year with things you want/should do is not a good idea… However I think it is a good idea to incorporate the new things in your daily life meaning instead of saying “I wanna lose 25lbs. this year.” make it a regular thing to go to the gym. Also, I think it is important to consider your goals and how realistic they are. Is it feasible for you to accomplish them? Don’t go beyond your means. Will you have time do it? Will you stick to it? You could always just plan to do something it doesn’t all have to happen in one year. Go at your own pace.

I just say all of this to express that I suggest that you  should want to do these things long term depending on what the goal is. I think it is important to consider that you want to continue doing this thing rather than for a short period of time and constantly continuing the cycle of coming up with something new every year. Just consider what you want to do as improvement rather than becoming a new you.

 

Happy New Year again,

S. Easley

Speaking Things Into Existence

I just wanted to make a post about the power of speaking things into existence. Positive thinking, planning and patience are important when it comes to making the thing you desire come to fruition. In life you want to experience things, learning things, move forward and even overcome some things.

So I suggest sitting down writing some things out and claiming them for your own. Mention some things to your friends like “Once I get my masters I plan to move up in my current job and get this much needed promotion.” or “I deserve a change of scenery so I’m gonna pack up and visit Morocco.” Talk your things to existences make them real.

It’s all about turning your desires into goals that can happen and not letting them just be far fetched chit chat.

I hope you guys consider this and decide to speak things into existence so that there will be a positive change in your life 🙂

   By: S. Easley

Just Some Tips😊

 

So we’re pretty much knee deep into the fall semester and it’s important to stay focused, organized and motivated. Those 3 key things are what are needed to have successful semesters.

 

It’s important to stay focused though some class lectures can be a little dry you want to make sure you are retaining info because isn’t that the whole point of being there? lol right so in some cases teachers may have powerpoints that they’ll post later  after the class I suggest still taking notes anyway that way you can follow along throughout class and know what’s being talked about and maybe even get some examples that could possibly be on an upcoming exam. Also, what may help in some classes is bringing the textbook. Lugging the textbook around campus can be a pain, but it can contribute to your understanding of a particular chapter or concept. However, you should be doing the reading assignments because that plays a big part in your success in a course.

  

Organization is soooo important. You have to figure out what works best for you whether it’s a notebook or a binder or whichever other ways there are to store notes, old exams and assignments. You want to make sure all of your notes and assignments are neat and organized preferably by date. When you take notes be sure to put the chapter on it so that when you have the date and chapter it’ll be super easy to look back at notes for exams and such because you’ll have the dates and chapters to reference. Another very essential part of being organized is to get a planner. GET ONE! It’s not too late. With a planner you’ll be able to keep track of what’s due when and what test is coming up. You can even better your time management by adding other stuff so that you can have a clear map out of how your week or month is going to be. I know I know we have our smartphones for that, but I think it’s better and more clear to have it written out right in front of you.

 

Staying motivated is so important right now more than ever. We’re not even at midterms yet, but it’s important to keep your head above the water. Take a break or two don’t let your assignments fall behind and don’t let them drain you either. It’s counterproductive for you to be unmotivated and drained. Keep in mind what all of this hard work and dedication is for. If you feel like you’re not quite sure what you’re doing all of this for jot down some goals. What do you want to get out of the college experience? What do you want out of life? Where do you want to be in life in 5 years?

I just thought I would write something for the students because I know from experience it can be a very tiring and difficult time, but I know if you stay focused, organized and motivated you’ll always come out on top. I hope this helps.

-S. Easley💖