List of Must See Horror Movies

Halloween is coming up and I think it’s necessary to compile a list of horror movies to watch for when you’re laid up with bae or having a movie night with friends.

I feel like it’s so cliché to include Halloween, Nightmare on Elm Street or Friday the 13th which are all cult classics, but there are plenty of slept on movies out here. Check out my list below

The Strangers (2008) – Kristen (Liv Tyler) and James (Scott Speedman) are expecting a relaxing weekend at a family vacation home in a woodsy and secluded area, but their stay turns out to be the opposite. A mysterious woman arrives the vacation knocking on the door relentlessly looking for someone they don’t know. A series of strange things happen as the couple is forced to fight for their lives as a group of masked and sadistic people taunt and torture them.

V/H/S (2012) – crooks who are hired to steal a rare VHS tape from a remote house. Once getting to the house they find cryptic footage, old TVs and a dead body.

Evil Dead (2013) – The remake of the original 1981 film is about Mia (Jane Levy), a drug addict who is determined to kick the habit. In effort to become drug free she asks her brother, David (Shiloh Fernandez), his girlfriend, Natalie (Elizabeth Blackmore) along with their friends. They all go to Mia and David’s family forest cabin. One of their friends, Eric discovers a book called the Book of the Dead that he reads aloud and awaken an ancient demon.

The Serbian Film (2010)– An old Serbian porn star (Srdjan Todorovic) who’s struggling to make ends meet for his family decides to do one last film for a large lump some of money. Unfortunately and unknowingly, he agrees to do an adult film that contains pedophilia, necrophilia and death.

28 Days Later (2003) – A group of misguided animal rights activists free a caged chimp infected with the “Rage” virus from a medical research lab. London bike courier, Jim (Cillian Murphy) wakes up from a coma a month after the activists freed the infected chimps. After leaving the very hospital, he finds the city stranded and lifeless. While running away from zombies he bumps into a group of suvivors, Selena (Naomie Harris) and cab driver, Frank (Brendan Gleeson). Jim joins them on an uncertain journey to safety.

Darkness (2004) – Paul (Stephan Enquist) and his older sister, Regina (Anna Paquin), unpack and settle into their new country home with their parents. The morale in the house slowly becomes dark and tense. Strange things start to happen in the house. Supernatural occurrences began happening more regularly. As Regina digs into the dark history of her family’s home she struggles to uncover the reasoning behind the macabre presence. As the supernatural occurrences get more intense and threatening, Regina looks into the house’s dark history and struggles to uncover the reason behind the grim presence. This one of my favorite movies that delves deep into dark magic and cults.

Dark Skies (2013) – Lacy (Keri Russell) and Daniel Barrett (Josh Hamilton) live in the suburbs with their sons, Jesse (Dakota Goyo) and Sam (Kadan Rockett). However, that peace soon shatters with a series of disturbing events that escalate. When it becomes clear that their family is being targeted by an unimaginably terrifying, deadly — and possibly alien — threat, Daniel and Lacy draw on their courage and determination to protect their family and identify what is after them. I was so paranoid after watching this movie. I kept checking behind my ears.

Drag Me To Hell (2009) – Christine has a loving boyfriend (Justin Long) and a great job at a Los Angeles bank, but her heavenly life becomes hellish when she doesn’t grant a gypsy woman’s request. In an effort to impress her boss Christine denies the woman’s request and in retaliation the woman places a curse on her. Christine attempts to get help from a psychic in order to break the curse, but the price may be too steep. This movie made me be more conscious of how I treat people.

V/H/S (2012) – crooks who are hired to steal a rare VHS tape from a remote house. Once getting to the house they find cryptic footage, old TVs and a dead body.

Human Centipede (2009) – A deranged surgeon (Dieter Laser) drugs and sutures three unsuspecting tourists together through their gastric systems for his sick and twisted experiment. If you’re squeamish don’t watch this. This movie is not for the weak hearted.

The Descent (2005)–  Sarah (Shauna Macdonald) goes to North Carolina to spend some time exploring caves with her friends after experiencing some emotional trauma. After Sarah and her friends descend underground and into the caves, they discover strange cave paintings and evidence of an earlier expedition. They soon learn they are not alone in the cave as they encounter the underground predators who inhabit the cave.

Skeleton Key (2005) – Caroline Ellis (Kate Hudson) is a nurse living in New Orleans who quits her job at a hospice to work for an elderly woman, Violet Devereaux (Gena Rowlands) whose husband, Ben (John Hurt) is in poor health after having a stroke. Caroline starts to explore the couple’s Bayou mansion and she discovers some strange things that opens the door for her to learn about the house’s mysterious past. Caroline soon learns about the sinister secret that Violet has been keeping from her.

Hostel (2005) – Best friends Josh (Derek Richardson) and Paxton (Jay Hernandez) go backpackingg across Europe after graduating from college.The pair stop in Amsterdam to indulge in sex and drugs where they Oli, a tourist from Iceland. The three hang out together and look into the rumors of an enticing Slovakian hostel full of lusty women, but find themselves drawn into a deadly game instead.

I Know What You Did Last Summer (1997) – Four friends are driving down a dark road and accidentally hit a fisherman. They realize they killed the fisherman so they dump his body. A year later of them receives a letter letting them know that they witnessed the crime. From that point on, the friends are stalked by a killer with a hook. This movie is one of my favorites from the 90s.

Wrong Turn (2003) – A Group of friends are traveling through West Virginia when they start to have car trouble. They’re stranded and soon discover that they’re being stalked by backwoods cannibals. This movie confirmed my feelings and notions about WV.

High Tension/Haute Tension (2005) A young French woman, Alex (Maïwenn Le Besco), travels out to the country to visit her family and she her friend, brings Marie (Cécile de France) with her. Shortly after they get settled in, Alex’s parents are brutally attacked by a truck driver who breaks into the home. The killer proceeds to stalk the women as well. The killer kidnaps Alex so Marie hides in the back of the truck to save her friend not knowing the horror that is to come.

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My Weekend Trip to New Orleans

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Last week I went to New Orleans. I stayed at an Airbnb that was about 10 minutes from the French Quarter for the duration of my trip. I was in NOLA for 4 days and my Airbnb (click the link for the rental info) only cost me $300. It was a 2 bedroom apartment that had up to date amenities such as AC, marble countertops and etc. So with the Airbnb being located about 10 mins from the French Quarter my ubers cost me about $8.

I’m not from New Orleans and didn’t know anyone from there so I didn’t exactly know the area that it was located in. The neighborhood was ehh, but the interior was superb. Everything was pretty much up to date and there was AC so I was satisfied. (Thank God)

The weather in New Orleans is typically very hot and humid. The weather was nice and clear for most of my trip, but on the last day of my trip it rained nonstop.

 

The French Quarter is basically the bustling downtown area of New Orleans. It’s oversaturated with tourists and overpriced, but unique souvenirs & etc. During the day you’ll see tons of people eating, talking and walking around seemingly aimlessly (lol). There are painters and all types of sidewalk acts. Some of the people are pretty friendly and may spark up some small talk. During the night you’ll see people out for drinks, you’ll hear music, see psychics and some unexplainable things.

 

Some of the popular food spots to go to are Cafe Du Monde, French Marketplace, Tropical Isle, and Fire Food & Spirits.

Cafe Du Monde is the place to go for beignets. Beignets are their specialty so they pretty much only serve that and drinks. The French donuts are sold in orders of 3 for $3 and some change. The line is always long and their open 24 hours. They also have carryout if you want to get them to go. They have a location at Riverwalk Outlet and another on Decatur st.

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Fire Food & Spirits is a cool spot that’s a restaurant and bar. The service wasn’t that great, but the food was good. I went there and got a seafood platter that had catfish, crawfish, and shrimp with pasta. The platter cost me $15. It’s located about 15 mins from the French Quarter in a shopping center on Bullard Ave.

The French Marketplace is where you can go to get lunch, dinner and do a little flea market type shopping in the French Quarter. I stopped there for lunch and got a catfish Po’boy. The catfish sandwich and chips cost me about $10. The sandwich wasn’t horrible, but I wasn’t impressed.

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There are two Tropical Isle bars located on Bourbon Street that sell the popular hand grenade drinks. I went to another bar called Willies Chicken Shack that has these really tall margarita drinks for $12.

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Down by Canal St there is Riverwalk Outlet that’s basically a mall so if you ever need a last minute outfit or something stop there. Behind the outlet there is a ferry that costs $2 one way and will take you to Algiers Point which is considered to be the Brooklyn of Nola. The trolley is also cheap and costs $1.25. There aren’t really any buses in the French Quarter so expect to either uber or use the trolley to get around the city.

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Canal Street gives you like an LA/Miami feel with the palm trees and streets minus the beaches (lol). NOLA is definitely one of a kind..

Bourbon Street is not for the weak hearted. It’s definitely an acquired taste. There’s tons of people. Very drunk people. Ladies don’t wear heels. Always pay attention to what’s going on as well. I had numerous strangers walk up to me and get really close to me (my purse). However, there’s never a dull moment and it’s still cool to enjoy a night out there. I was able to see a wedding second line parade which was really dope. I shared a few pictures of other things I saw below.

 

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While I was there I went to two museums. I went to the New Orleans Historic Voodoo Museum, which was quaint and small, but very intriguing and creepy. There was a lot of Creole history in the museum. People placed pictures and money offerings on the relics. There was a “wish stump” where people wrote their wishes down followed the instructions and placed the paper on the stump with a money offering. Definitely a must see if you’re ever in New Orleans.

The second museum I went to was the Museum of Death. I wasn’t allowed to take any pictures, but the museum basically had pictures of crime scenes such as the Nicole Simpson crime scene, notes/letters from criminals and victims and there was stuff there related to embalming/morticians tools/supplies. If you’re squeamish or faint don’t go. It’s not that much gore, but I’m sure it can be too much for some.

New Orleans is a Southern city so despite it being a seemingly colorful and exciting melting pot of people there are still racial tensions and looks of disdain. It’s best to do most of the activities and sightseeing in a groups. If you go somewhere and don’t feel comfortable just leave. Safety first ☝🏾

Always make sure your phone is charged. The French Quarter is winding and confusing at first, but you still want to make sure you know where you are at all times.

Overall my trip was really fun. I had fun meeting new people, trying new dishes and exploring the city. I’ll definitely be going back in the near future.

Movie Review: The Incredible Jessica James

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I’m really starting to appreciate Netflix’s original series and movies more. One of my most recent favorites is The Incredible Jessica James (2017). The film stars Jessica Williams, Lakeith Stanfield and Chris O’Dowd.

The film is about Jessica, a young black woman who is the embodiment of eccentric and colorful. Jessica is a struggling playwright living in NYC . She’s going through a recent breakup and trying to navigate through life. While dating she finds an unlikely love interest who has her smitten and rethinking some of the things in her life.

I feel like this particular film is something that was much needed because it focused on the life of an artistic, black woman rather than the typical movie about the quirky white girl next door. Another thing that I like about the movie is that it was realistic. Jessica didn’t have a ton of friends, she was awkward and funny instead of being portrayed as a hyper sexualized woman who couldn’t get her life together. It also focused on the struggle of getting over an ex and eventually making amends which I like because people shouldn’t have to feel so toxic and torn after a breakup.

Despite the good things, I did not like that Jessica’s love interest which was a white collar white man who just came into her life via a blind date that her friend sent her on. He miraculously swept her off her feet like she was damsel in distress and he was her knight in shining armor. In the movie industry, it’s so cliche to have a black woman play a conflicted character who is trying to figure it all out with the help of her white friend who makes snarky comments or she has a white love interest who is coming into her life as a savior to give her clarity and solutions to all her problems.

The movie was really dope despite the white savior aspect. Jessica James was living her best life not knowing what was next for her or what was the right way to cope after a break up. I was happy to see a black girl be at the forefront of a film all about her and her life.

Movie Review: IT

It is based on the Stephen King novel of the same name, which released on September 8, 2017. Prior to this film there was a mini series that aired in 1990.

The film follows a group of 13 year old misfits that are labeled as the “Losers Club” and live in Derry, Maine. After a significant amount of missing children reports, Bill, who is apart of the Losers Club, has a little brother that has mysteriously gone missing. He uses the little bit of courage that he can muster up along with the help of his friends to figure out what is causing the children in their town to go missing. As he and his friends dig deep and uncover secrets of their seemingly quaint town they soon realize they must fight against their deepest fears along with fighting the thing that lives and thrives off their fears.

If you’ve seen the movie then you’ve noticed in the end credits it said “chapter 1”, which hints at there being a sequel coming soon. *Spoiler not but really a spoiler* In Stephen King’s novel and in the film, the protagonists made a blood oath to return to Derry and fight off It/Pennywise and the gang inevitably return to Derry as adults to face him Pennywise once again.

I think this movie initially wasn’t highly anticipated, but it grabbed the interest of people once the release date neared. It was a smash at the box office with an estimated $60 million haul, which made it the highest grossing September release ever.

I would definitely say that It has Annabelle: Creation beat. This film was one of the scariest movies of 2017. It wasn’t that eerie but it’s as close as the horror genre is going to get these days. There was a scene where one of the kids in the Loser’s Club is at the library and is possibly uncovering the origin of Pennywise which could give the second film the opportunity to delve into where It came from. There weren’t any cheesy attempts to spook you with a sound effect or ominous music. The directors and producers really relied on making the creepiness of Pennywise come to life in the film based on the text. I would give this film a 4.5/5

Movie Review: Annabelle: Creation

This weekend I went to see the film, Annabelle: Creation. For those of you who aren’t familiar, the film is basically a prequel to the initial film titled Annabelle, which was preceded by the film, The Conjuring. Supposedly Annabelle is a real life demonically possessed doll.

So the story is that there is a demonic possession of this bizarre and very ugly looking doll because it serves as a conduit. For whatever reason people really like this doll and think that it is a good idea to give it to people as a gift so for years on end the doll is continuously passed around and is haunting everyone until it makes it way to the paranormal investigator couple, Ed and Lorraine Warren. The Warren couple were able to seize the doll and put it in a glass box where it is said to be blessed regularly by a priest in order to keep its evil at bay.

Without going into too much detail and without spoiling the movie too much Annabelle: Creation is about a little girl who died tragically and her parents allowed for her soul to possess a doll and it inevitably went wrong. Years later, there are some orphan girls with nowhere to stay and the parents of the little girl who died offered to let the orphan girls to stay at their home and all hell breaks loose.

 

Honestly, I wasn’t really feeling the first Annabelle movie, but I still decided to give Annabelle: Creation a shot because I love horror movies. I felt like they had a good chance to redeem themselves and make this ugly doll have a dark story.

I felt like it had a lot of potential especially because it was supposed to be based on a true story. However, it was very underwhelming. There’s a few moments where you might jump, but even the corniest horror can take advantage of the element of surprise. At one point in the movie they let you see the demon in plain sight and it was very disappointing it looked like a mix between Spiderman’s Green Goblin and X-Men’s Nightcrawler.

There were a lot of moments where the plot got messy and didn’t make much sense. The movie was supposed to give a backstory on the doll, but it was really just a waste of a 2 hour movie. It started really slow and then finally led to the “scary” parts. It was funny how basically the evil that originated was sought out twice by the “victims” in the movie. There was no zero explanation on how the evil went from a porcelain doll to a raggedy ann doll.

 

I would give this movie a 2 out of 5.

Healthy Friendships

It’s important for us to evaluate our circles and know that we are surrounding ourselves with people who are good for us. A lot of the times we end up in friendships due to common interests, personality similarities or because of common areas such as work, high school and college. MOST of the time people call each other friends, but in reality it’s more a convenience thing or there’s some low-key rivalry. Some of us remain in friendships despite the fact that it’s a dead end friendship, but still continue just stick around out of convenience because I mean who would want to voluntarily start over with a brand new set of friends? Nobody. At some point you have to evaluate and ask yourself are any of the friendships I’m in good for me? Is this a friendship that I have outgrown? Am I only friends with this person because I went to college/high school with them? Am I only friends with person until my shift is over? These are questions that I feel will easily give you an idea of whether your friendships are genuine and whether someone is a friend or an acquaintance.

So far in my adulting, I have realized that a lot of the energy we put out into the world is mostly made up of the energy that we are given meaning if you’re around shitty people you’re going to end up assimilating and becoming a shitty person as well which meaning that you’re putting out shitty energy. If you’re around productive people you’re more likely to be inspired by that and become productive yourself.

Here’s a list of what I think a genuine and healthy friendship consists of:

  • Respect – You and your friends should have should have mutual respect for one another. No sneak dissing, clowning or disrespect. You both respect each other’s relationships. Lines aren’t crossed.
  • Communication – Good communication is key. It prevents a lot of unnecessary and catty issues amongst women. Everybody can talk/vent, but it takes a real friend to be able to just listen. Some people fake listen, but it’s important to have a friend who actually listens and gets you. Make sure you can be that friend as well
  • Balance – you and your friends’ personalities should compliment one another which I think is important because some people may agree on certain things, but not enough for it to be healthy friendship. Also, there should be a balance because no one wants to feel like they’re carrying or forcing the friendship. Time spent together is important in terms of balance as well because too much time spent together can be detrimental. Moderation is key.
  • Trust- Trust is really, really, really important because you need to know that when you confide in a friend the information shared between the two of you isn’t shared and vice versa. It’s also important because in a friendship both people should know and feel that their friend always has their back
  • No Competiveness – you and your friends shouldn’t be competing or trying to upstage one another.
  • Uplifting/Support– Your friends are one of your best sources of support. You should be there for them. They should be there for you.
  • Dependability – this is particularly important because it goes hand in hand with balance. I think you should be able to feel like you can count on your friend and they should feel the same way about you. However, that doesn’t mean you should be paying your friends bills and they should be buying cars lol unless that’s what you guess have a mutual understanding on.

 

Movie Review: Detroit

Today I went to see the film, Detroit, which is an American period crime drama based on the events that occurred at the Algiers Motel in 1967 Detroit.

The film begins by giving a little background on the great migration which is what lead to a lot of black people inhabiting places like Detroit, Illinois, Ohio, New York and etc. The migration stirred up a lot racial tension within those communities and ultimately led to a lack of equal opportunity for black people.

Prior to the incident at the Algiers Motel, there had been riots in the Southside of Detroit for days on end. There was a lot looting and a lot of innocent people being killed while the city was being occupied by the military as it has been deemed a “no man’s land” by Gov. George Romney (Yes, Mitt Romney’s father).

Melvin Dismukes, black man who just wants to stay out of the white man’s way and do anything to appease them. He’d even go out of his way to appease the soldiers and assist the police. He tries to save some of the black youth by intervening when they have issues with the police.

The movie features the group The Dramatics. After leaving their venue and missing out on their performance due to the riots, the group heads out, but decides to split as they did not want to be perceived as a gang. So two of them, Larry Reed of The Dramatics and his friend, Fred Temple ended up at the Algiers Motel. From that point on they were they were pretty much doomed.

The two ended up being a part of a police raid with other black men and two white women who were staying there at the motel. That night ended with 3 people dead and 9 injured. Dismukes Uncle Tom-like behavior gets him hemmed up with the officers who committed crimes against those innocent people that night.

The crimes the officers did go to court, but of course they were ultimately acquitted of their crimes (surprise!!) so no spoilers there. Reed had to go on with his life by facing the lost of his friend and more than likely coping with PTSD. According to end credits, he is still alive and well in Detroit.

As a black person, this movie was and always will be important to me because there are parts of black history that are never touched on in America’s whitewashed textbooks. To some degree I feel like this movie was whitewashed though. This movie definitely hits home for me because just two years ago there were riots in Baltimore for basically the same issue.. Police brutality. Isn’t it crazy how history repeats?

The film was thought provoking to say the least. It made me think should white filmmakers tell the story of black people through their white lens? I felt uneasy when I thought about it because I know that the way the industry is setup a lot of these stories can only be told through a white mouthpiece.

There were moments in the film where I feel like the writers and directors tried to maintain a good balance of good and bad with the white people. There were moments were the black men were being brutally beaten, but then some white savior would come out of nowhere and save them or look out for them.

The movie was about 2 hours long so I can only imagine how much time those people actually spent being held up in that motel by the police that night.

The really crazy part about the movie is that the police never actually found what they came there for. Most parts of the movie were filler because a lot of the information on that night is limited to the janky police investigation and the confessions from the victims.

 

Overall I would give this film a 4 out of 5.

Movie Review: Dark Tower

Yesterday I went to go see Dark Tower, which is a film based on Stephen King’s Dark Tower book series.

The movie begins by briefly stating that there is a dark tower at the center of the universe that protects everything in the universe and that the only the way the tower can be destroyed is by the mind of a child.

Jake is a teen with special abilities that make a “shiner.” through the utilization of his abilities as a shiner he teams up with one of the last gunslingers from the midworld in order to save this “dark tower” which is said to protect the universe. The dark tower is currently at risk because of this man in black AKA Walter who is a sorcerer with no real agenda besides destroying the tower, which is an awful short term goal if you ask me because I mean once he destroys the tower then what?

Roland realizes that Jake can be used to help lead him to Walter to get the revenge he’s oh so desperate for. Along their journey they fight off Walter’s illusions and sorcery all while dodging his henchmen and forest creatures. Roland basically babysits the boy. He pats him up every now and then even though he’s emotionally disconnected and just wants to seek revenge for his father’s death.

This film’s trailer initially had me pressed to go see this movie. The graphics, potential of the plot and the lead stars made me feel like they might be on to something with this Stephen King book adaption, but I left the theatre feeling like blah instead. Don’t get me wrong it had a few comedic moments and a few action packed scenes, but I feel like the writers and directors left me wanting more. Much of the plot did not make sense there were lots of gaps and it even felt rushed. Roland was just on the brink of death at one point in the movie and then all of a sudden Jake gets him an aspirin and he’s fine (???). The fight scene between Roland and Walter was even lazy. The ending was really unrealistic even for a fantasy movie.

 

Overall I would give this movie 3 out of 5.

For the 20 Something Year Olds

If you’re anything like me you’re constantly analyzing and evaluating every aspect of your life. As young adults in our 20’s we’re all trying to figure out life and how we can live fulfilling lives. I have moments where I do a lot of self-reflection on my accomplishments, mishaps, and etc. so I decided to share a few things I’ve learned so far in adulthood. I hope this is helps!

  • Reflect, but don’t dwell – I think reflecting is good. It’s important to look back and see where you went wrong, but it’s even more important to do so because you remind yourself of all the good things you have accomplished. However, don’t dwell on anything negative, just reflect so that you’ll learn from it.
  • Take risks – I’ve learned that it’s all about seizing the opportunity. Do all of the things you want to do and don’t second guess yourself. The last thing you’d want to do is live your life regretting anything. Take risks with something you’re passionate about like a career path, a trip, a project, an idea or an outfit doesn’t matter what it is just do it. Life is all about the experiences.
  • Don’t settle and don’t feel bad for not settling – if there’s a job that just isn’t working for you and doesn’t fit the vision you have for your career path just ditch it. Don’t like your current lifestyle? Change it. Don’t get so comfortable with complaining about the things you’re unhappy with in your life that you end up settling for it anyway. Devote your time to pursuing your dreams. Remove anything that isn’t satisfying you in life.
  • Do what suits you – A lot of people feel pressured to do things because other people are doing it. Don’t feel that way. Do what works for YOU. Do what YOU want to do.
  • Never compare yourself– everybody’s timing isn’t the same and everything isn’t for everybody. You’ll be miserable if you constantly compare yourself to what other people are doing. It’s really pointless because we’re all different people and we all don’t aspire to do the same things in life.
  • Network – meet people. talk to people. It’s all about who you know these days. Take advantage of any networking opportunities because you never what could become of it.
  • Be prepared to take some L’s – You’re going to experience some failures in life, but it’s okay you can use that and learn from it. Learn from the losses so that you can prosper and be great.
  • Time management – Managing your time is a key part of staying organized and punctual. Make sure that you’re planning things out effectively. If you suck at planning use a planner, calendar or the iPhone app “Reminders” to help you stay on track.
  • Timing is everything, but at the same time it isn’t– Don’t get caught up in the concept of time. It’s never too late to accomplish the things you want to do.
  • Don’t let people project their issues onto you – a lot people are unsatisfied with their lives. Don’t let people try to lump you into their miserable lives. Live your life and don’t let other people distort your way of thinking. Be happy.
  • Live in the moment – I’ve noticed that a lot people get stuck on showing everybody how lit they are or whatever, but sometimes you should just put the phone down. Everybody doesn’t need to know what you’re doing all of the time because I mean if you’re recording and taking pictures of every little thing you do are you even enjoying the moment? Just enjoy wherever you are and whoever you’re with.
  • Being alone is ok – Alone time is essential. When other people aren’t around it allows you to think clearly and if you’re not used to it learn to enjoy your own company. Take yourself out to the movies, treat yourself to a spa day or something more simple like a walk or reading a book. A little solitude every now and then is healthy.
  • Being selfish is ok – Life is stressful and busy so there are times where you should put yourself and your needs over everyone else’s. It’s absolutely ok to put yourself over others because if you’re looking out for other people and putting them first who’s putting you first??
  • Make plans, but just know that sometimes you’ll be winging it – I think it’s good to have a general plan of how you want your life to go because it’ll help you stay focused on whatever goals you want to accomplish. However, 9 times out of 10 you’re going to stray away from your original plan because life is full of surprises, but that shouldn’t deter you from continuously working towards seeing your goals or plans through.